1. And when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100 vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career therapist, and someone whose day you’ll hear about 18,000 times.
     


  2. Growing up, I didn’t read novels by women. It’s not that I didn’t want to. It’s almost like I didn’t think that I needed to or, I guess, I didn’t know that I needed to. I was perfectly happy in a world contained by men. I adopted the posture of the brooding male as my own. I was Salinger, I was Kerouac, I was any male protagonist in a novel that one of my boyfriends recommended. I didn’t know that there was a specific female sadness so I was content with relating to a generalized one. And in a way, reading these novels was less of a way to relate and more of a way to learn how to be the type of girl that these male novelists liked. One of my first ambitions wasn’t to be a writer – it was to be a writer’s muse.
    — Gabby Bess, in Dazed (via electric-cereal)

    (via girlsgetbusyzine)

     


  3. cisyphus:

    Slurs are not oppressive because they are offensive, they are oppressive  because slurs by nature of being slurs draw upon certain power dynamics  to remind their target of his/her/their vulnerability in a certain relation to power and as an extension of that, to threaten violence and exploitation of that vulnerability.

    (via cedar-waxwing)

     


    1. The US Government: We're not going to make it federally mandatory for people to get paid a wage they can actually live off of
    2. The US Government: If people want to make a living, they'll just have to work 16+ hours a day
    3. The US Government: And if their kids end up disenfranchised because of a lack of parental involvement, well that's not our problem
    4. The US Government: In fact, what is our problem is creating a system that will funnel these disenfranchised youth into our prison system so they can work for corporations (that promise us money) for damn near free
    5. The US Government: If they don't want to fall victim to this system, then they can seek higher education
    6. The US Government: Except such an education will be inaccessible to most disenfranchised people and skewed in favor of the financially stable and white people
    7. The US Government: And we're not going to make intervention programs like sex education and conflict resolution federally mandatory, because that's the parent's job
    8. The US Government: The parent who is working 16 hours a day
     

  4. tedx:

    Watch the whole talk here »

    Leslie Morgan Steiner was in an abusive relationship, though at first she didn’t realize it. In a talk at TEDxRainier, she tells the disturbing story of her relationship, correcting misconceptions many people hold about victims of domestic violence, and explaining how we can all help break the silence.

    If you or someone you know is facing domestic violence or an absuive relationship, you can find a list of resources here. The U.S. National Sexual Assault Hotline is 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE), and RAINN offers a secure online hotline.

    (via tiniestfragments)

     


  5. Here’s a general rule. When an insult is directed at a woman, consider how it would have sounded directed at a man. If the result is ridiculous, then it’s probably sexist.
     

  6. did-you-kno:

    Poor management in the workplace costs the economy an estimated $360 billion each year in lost productivity.

    Source

    GOOD

     


  7. These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’

    Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.
     


  8. Our system of elite education manufactures young people who are smart and talented and driven, yes, but also anxious, timid, and lost, with little intellectual curiosity and a stunted sense of purpose: trapped in a bubble of privilege, heading meekly in the same direction, great at what they’re doing but with no idea why they’re doing it.
    — 

    http://www.newrepublic.com/article/118747/ivy-league-schools-are-overrated-send-your-kids-elsewhere

    The education system has to act to mitigate the class system, not reproduce it. Affirmative action should be based on class instead of race, a change that many have been advocating for years. Preferences for legacies and athletes ought to be discarded. SAT scores should be weighted to account for socioeconomic factors. Colleges should put an end to résumé-stuffing by imposing a limit on the number of extracurriculars that kids can list on their applications. They ought to place more value on the kind of service jobs that lower-income students often take in high school and that high achievers almost never do. They should refuse to be impressed by any opportunity that was enabled by parental wealth. Of course, they have to stop cooperating with U.S. News.

     


  9. Researchers have shown that reading fiction promotes empathy. Children’s book author and illustrator, Anne Dewdney, echoes that finding when she argues that, “When we open a book, and share our voice and imagination with a child, that child learns to see the world through someone else’s eyes.” Sadly, studies reveal that parents in the U.S., Canada, and Great Britain spend less time reading and telling stories to their sons than to their daughters. In fact, in as early as nine months, researchers found a gender gap in literary activities.
     


  10. When someone is venting about systemic injustice, commandeering their attention with the question, “but what solutions would you recommend” is akin to walking up to a person who is on fire and asking them to bring you a bucket of water so that you can “help.”
     

  11. did-you-kno:

    According to a study, couples who share housework equally are more likely to divorce.

    Source

    because traditional marriages that hold sexist values about who dpes housework are more traditional about divorce being a sin?

     


  12. Here is how the internship scam works. It’s not about a “skills” gap. It’s about a morality gap.

    1) Make higher education worthless by redefining “skill” as a specific corporate contribution. Tell young people they have no skills.

    2) With “skill” irrelevant, require experience. Make internship sole path to experience. Make internships unpaid, locking out all but rich.

    3) End on the job training for entry level jobs. Educated told skills are irrelevant. Uneducated told they have no way to obtain skills.

    4) As wealthy progress on professional career path, middle and lower class youth take service jobs to pay off massive educational debt.

    5) Make these part-time jobs not “count” on resume. Hire on prestige, not skill or education. Punish those who need to work to survive.

    6) Punish young people who never found any kind of work the hardest. Make them untouchables — unhireable.

    7) Tell wealthy people they are “privileged” to be working 40 hrs/week for free. Don’t tell them what kind of “privileged” it is.

    8) Make status quo commentary written by unpaid interns or people hiring unpaid interns. They will tell you it’s your fault.

    9) Young people, it is not your fault. Speak out. Fight back. Bankrupt the prestige economy.
    — 

    The moral bankruptcy of the internship economy | Sarah Kendzior (via brutereason)

    solarbird added: see also the intrinsic fraud of the prestigious internship. (via solarbird)

    this comes from the top rope.

    (via bainard)

    I pretty much hit reblog on this after point 1 alone.

    (via tomewing)

    YES THIS IS IT THIS IS FUCKING INTERNSHIPS

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  13. As many as 15 percent of freshmen at America’s top schools are white students who failed to meet their university’s minimum standards for admission, according to Peter Schmidt, deputy editor of the Chronicle of Higher Education. These kids are “people with a long-standing relationship with the university,” or in other words, the children of faculty, wealthy alumni and politicians.

    According to Schmidt, these unqualified but privileged kids are nearly twice as common on top campuses as Black and Latino students who had benefited from affirmative action.

    — 

    Ten myths about affirmative action (via linzyxxxxx)

    This is EXTREMELY blatant on college campuses. The fact that these things need to be clarified is sad.

    (via newwavefeminism)

    Legacy is the real affirmative action…and yet we don’t see certain types of entitled people suing to dismantle that.

    (via invisiblelad)

    wow yes archiving this

    (via yeatme)

    (Source: sociolab, via yeatme)

     


  14. More important, the study also shows that the use of the discourse markers is particularly common among speakers who score on a personality test as “conscientious”—“people who are more thoughtful and aware of themselves and their surroundings.” Discourse markers, far from being opaque, automatic, or zombie-like, show that the speaker has “a desire to share or rephrase opinions to recipients.”